5 mistakes Parents make with Teens
5 Mistakes Parents Make With Teens and Tweens
Here are the top mistakes parents make with their teens and tweens, and how to avoid them.
Teenagers need freedom & independence
The focus here is on teenagers. From the moment of birth the child’s development is towards ever greater independence. A child gains a multitude of skills in the early years, during preparatory and primary school, and much is done for the child to prepare them for independence. But when a child enters his teens he or she must take responsibility, and further development depends on what they do, rather then what is done for them.
Recently, I witnessed a typical scene. I drew up at the traffic light alongside a car with mother and teenage son in it. She is ranting, hands gesticulating, clearly trying to drive home some important point. He is passive, staring glumly ahead. If there was a speech bubble above his head it would read, “I wish she would stop. I wish she would just stop.” I have been there. You have imparted all these wonderful values and now want evidence that your child has taken it all on board and is putting it into practice in his or her life. What is required here is patience. Patience, letting go and trusting.
The developmental task facing the teenager is to discover who they are and what they value as individuals separate from family and as members of a wider community. To do this they need to step back from their parents, whose reflection is often too close for comfort. Have you ever met a teenager who wanted to become just like his mother or father? Did you? Peer relationships become most important at this stage. It doesn’t really matter what you think of their appearance, it is all about gaining acceptance in the peer group, looking the part.
Which is not to say that the parent’s role is made redundant. Teenagers, above all, need to ‘find’ themselves, and while no one can do that for them, loving, watchful and supportive parents can provide a safe base which may ensure that they don’t lose themselves in this potentially confusing time. Drugs, sex, alcohol are just a few of several snares out there, and this is the hazardous territory they need to negotiate.
Working in schools enables me to have wonderful discussions with teenagers. Asking questions and having open discussions is far more useful than lecturing or moralising. These responses came from a group aged 14 to 16, and provide a good insight into how best to assist teenagers in these years.
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Growing with Doral
Divine Savior Academy
By Dana Kirchoff
Located within the rapidly growing City of Doral, Divine Savior Academy has an incredible story of growth to match its surroundings. In 2004, Divine Savior Academy opened its doors with 26 students. Just ten years later, the school has nearly 600 students enrolled in PreK3 to 12th grade. This May, DSA broke ground for its third building project: a stand-alone high school on property that adjoins its current campus. The new building will open for the 2015-2016 school year. With over 88,000 square feet of additional educational space, the high school will have 23 classrooms, 4 science labs, tiered lecture rooms, an outdoor classroom, a full size high school gymnasium, a weight room, media center, chess room, dance studio, art rooms, music labs and much more. Added outdoor facilities include four tennis courts, a soccer field, additional parking and more playground space. The fact that the community of Doral is growing attributes to the Academy’s growth, but so do other important factors. Divine Savior Academy is the only private Christian academy located in Doral. A fully accredited school, the Academy prides itself on its rigorous, college-prep curriculum, its well-trained teachers, and its welcoming, family atmosphere. “DSA is a special place. There is a sense of community here that I haven’t encountered anywhere else. Teachers, families, and administration all work together to ensure that every student grows academically, socially and spiritually,” comments School Superintendent Carlos Leyrer. This mindset is Divine Savior Academy’s mission and has paved the way for its incredible story of growth. Looking toward the future, Divine Savior is committed to continuous growth in its facilities, programs, and most importantly in the future of its students.
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Importance of Education
What would you do if you were not allowed to get an education? You couldn’t read or write. You had to work a minimum wage job at a factory and you weren’t happy with the job. You couldn’t teach your kid any skills because you didn’t learn anything.
The biggest part of growing up is making the right choices that benefit you in the future. The idea is to get an education so you can choose a career, have hope, and reach your goals and dreams. Education is powerful because without it, early civilizations would have struggled to survive and thrive as a culture. It is important that adults trained the young of their society in the knowledge and skills they would need to master and eventually pass on.
The evolution of culture, and human beings as a species depended on the practice of knowledge. When cultures began to extend their knowledge beyond the basic skills of communicating, trading, gathering food, religious practices, etc, formal education, and schooling, eventually followed. Schooling in this sense was already in place in old times.
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